Before You Fall in Love with a Writer

An excerpt from my book root, available now on Amazon.

PHOTO CREDIT:  ALEXA MAZZARELLO

PHOTO CREDIT: ALEXA MAZZARELLO

Before you fall in love with a writer, understand that every chapter must matter. You cannot confine a writer to your territorial/reactive impulses. Even the past has the potential to become art framed by a pen. It is the way we as writers navigate. Please, find a way to be okay with that. Don’t hold our compasses (words) against us. It is possible to live just as deeply in a writer’s heart as we live in our minds. We’re just as present in our hearts. Just, sometimes…our imagination is the only passport we have. Only you know if you want to board separate jets. But know this…no one can love you as consciously or as freely as a writer. No one sees you like a writer sees you. You are already poetry waiting to be written. Feel the world, hold my hand. Tight.

Fleeting Woman

A Short Story

Photo credit:  Aaron Mello

Photo credit: Aaron Mello

She lives in your subconscious. She’s the poem that inspires you to write your own. You only wish you had half the spine of the notebooks she vastly occupies on your desk, never finding the courage to utter a word to her. Not one. She gives words real currency: all those nights tirelessly spent trying to recapture her. The nights you become a ransom writer.

A flicker of thought.

Recurring.

In the rain.

Muted colors.

Chasing her mirage.

Echoes of the unsaid.

Stubborn pavement.

Sweeping mind.

Highest frequency.

Promise.

Faraway.

Runaway.

Lover.

Polyamory & Loving in Freedom

I was recently shamed for identifying as a polyamorist and told, "The way I love isn't love." This was hurtful to hear because my love-style comes from an open, honest, and selfless place.

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For me, polyamory is about the freedom to create, explore, expand, and preserve my connections with the women I love (while also creating an empowered and supportive space for them to experience the same). Connections that are strong enough to survive together and apart and aren't contingent upon romantic and sexual exclusivity. Dynamic connections, real connections. Free from the cages most relationships confine us to when fear, insecurities, and jealousy are allowed to dictate the way we connect with others. I don't ever want to love anyone into minimizing what someone else may or may not mean to them and I never want to experience being loved that way again. I don't ever want to love anyone away from the true wild of their heart. So often we hear "I want to see you happy, even if it's not with me", but when put to the test it rarely converts from being an impulse gesture (something simply uttered in the moment) to being sincere. How many of you actually mean it? I do, and contrary to the misconceptions, being a polyamorist represents those sincere acts of selflessness for me: Selfless love. It isn't for anyone else to understand or accept. I'm just grateful for each day I get to wake up, love, and let love.