I'm a Lesbian. I'm Also a Trans Ally. Here's the Word They Don't Want You to Know.

PHOTO CREDIT:  MIGUEL BRUNA

PHOTO CREDIT: MIGUEL BRUNA

“TERF.”

Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists.

Disruptively alluded to as a “slur” as a way to silence lesbians who are trans allies by gaslighting the conversation faster than I can tweet “Come cuddle, @Lavernecox.”

Never use the word TERF, unless you're prepared to fend off an army of incontestably hateful people—who just so happen to be lesbians and bullies—ascending against you. That's exactly what happened to me when I decided to speak out against the transphobia that squeezed whatever last little bit of breath out of a bygone second home for a lot of us in the LGBTQ community when we were coming up and out—AfterEllen—before it was overthrown by organized hatred. TERFs. They even went so far as to use “the rape culture lesbians are facing” (Amy Dyess has me blocked, otherwise I'd link you directly) for blatantly disregarding trans people. 

Is this what “lesbians for lesbians” looks like now?
And this?
What about this?

Celebrated LGBTQ-inclusive lesbian, iconic DIVA Magazine publisher Linda Riley, has also been targeted for standing in support of visibility not limited to lesbians, as well as various other entities falling under the umbrella term who took principled stands against some of AfterEllen's ugliest thematic attempts to further marginalize and delegitimize trans women and trans women who are lesbians (recipients of “A visit from AfterEllen and Their Goon Squad” include comedian Rhea Butcher, author and editor/founder of The Dart Elaine Atwell, and managing editor at Autostraddle Heather Hogan). 

AfterEllen cares about neither lesbians nor “preserving a herstory,” as they've proven by launching personal attack campaigns against any lesbian or woman who goes against the TERF-popular grain on this (the unpopular grain in TERFland being LGBTQ solidarity). I'm still recovering from the conversational whiplash I experienced when I attempted to express my concerns to a member of AE staff, as I was immediately slammed with conspiratory alternative facts from opinion pieces. I literally told her I wasn't discounting her personal experiences of terror as she began to provide more context but instead substituted listening for more propaganda villainizing trans people, followed by defending AfterEllen's TERF-in-chief/editor with a divisive confidentiality notice at the end. Another one of their scare tactics used in attempts to silence us, perhaps. This is also the same person who wants us to believe she actually heard a single word Hannah Gadsby has ever said

The same war that gave us misogyny and homophobia gave us trans exclusionary radical feminists, AfterEllen. “Entertaining women since 2002.” Erasing lesbians all by themselves long before I showed up.